On The Threshold of Letting Go

On The Threshold of Letting Go
Raising kids is hard work, letting them spread their wings and fly is sometimes even harder!  I've been a stay at home mom for 18+ years.  Though my kids started out in public school, we have homeschooled for the past 6 years.

Now, here I am with my oldest about to graduate from high school.  I've been home with him from day one.  That's a lot of time together!  Some may think that after all of these years, 3 kids, homeschooling, and not working outside of the home that I would be looking forward to a break.  That's far from true!  I thought I would be easing into the letting go process, and in a way I have.  Kaehlen (my senior) started Vo-Tech this year, which has him away from home for a few hours every day Mon-Fri.  But then, not long after my daughter turned 16, she decided to get a job.  It just so happens that she and Kaehlen decided this at the same time.  So, all of a sudden, I was having to adjust to not just one, but two kids working away from home.  This may not seem like a big deal.  But let me tell ya, it was a struggle!  

Suddenly adjusting to just one kids at home was interesting.  Even though my kids don't do a ton together things were a bit more quiet.  Just the idea of my youngest being the only one home was enough to make him feel more lonely.  Then there was the whole cooking for three instead of five bit.  You'd think that would have made things easier, but with our special dietary needs it really didn't.  I was left with one with very specific needs, one who can make due as long as it's not all the time, and one who is very picky and has a hard time with certain meats.  

Let's just say that life continues to be interesting and ever changing.  These changes help me to cherish the moments we have to sit at the dinner table as a family even more, even if that is just once a week.  And those family nights we used to have on Friday's...well, those are becoming less and less (at least with all 5 of us), which means we do what we can with whoever happens to be home and enjoy the moments we have together.

I've always heard it said that time goes fast and before you know it your kids will be leaving home.  Yep, that's true for sure!  The other day I was watching one tired pregnant momma chase a little toddler around and I thought, "that seems like just yesterday!"  Yes, time certainly flies by.

I've said for a long time that I won't be a good empty-nester.  Though I have a ways to go for that to happen...I'm still thinking it's going to be true. lol With that being said, I just want all you mommas to know that I get you.  I'm here to help support you along the way.  If you'd like to join a support group of other moms working together on this journey, please check out this free group and let me know how I can help.
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How To Have Balance In Life As A Work From Home, Homeschool Mom

Finding the right balance in life can be quite tricky, especially for stay at home moms who wear many hats.  But there is hope!  You may have seen the "life balance wheel" that has different areas in life that you rate to see where you are off balance.  This helps you determine what areas need more focus so that you can bring them back into balance.

I find this tool very helpful, but in itself it won't tell you how to bring those areas back into balance (more on this later).  I have narrowed the areas down a bit and found what I consider to be the main areas many moms find themselves to be off-balance in.  They are: personal growth, relationships, health, self care, business, and finance.  Everything in your life will likely fit into one of these categories.  

Now, what do you do once you have determined what areas you need to work on?  You hone in on the specific area that needs help and focus on bringing it back into balance.  You make a plan, keeping in mind that you want to maintain balance where you already have it.  This can all seem a bit overwhelming, right?  That's why I'm super excited about my upcoming course to help busy, stressed, overwhelmed moms bring their life of chaos back into balance! Yes, there is hope and I'm here to help you!

If you can relate to this and would like help finding balance in your life, join my email list to stay updated on the course and for weekly encouragement.

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Homeschool Scheduling

Homeschool Scheduling
Homeschooling has its challenges.  For many, one of the big ones is how to schedule school work for the kids.  This is my sixth year homeschooling.  I've tried a few different planners and landed on one that I love.  However, it actually had a bit too much to it.  I really only wanted a few of the basic ideas, not the full planner.  So this year I decided to create my own.  

My homeschool planner is a PDF download that has:
monthly view
year at a glance
quarterly schedule
weekly schedule
curriculum log

You can find your free copy of it here!  

I also go over how to use this planner (and more!) in my Homeschool Essentials Program.  What all can you find in my program? I'm glad you asked!

Here is what you will get with the homeschool essentials program:
*Information on different types of learning styles.
*Introduction to different teaching styles.
*Links to some of my favorite curriculum sites.
*Scheduling help.
*Tips on grading, creating a report card and high school transcripts.
*Quiet time ideas.
*Tips from homeschool experts.
*Interviews and sessions with moms who have dealt with special needs.
*How to do a 60 second reset to help you in moments of stress and overwhelm.
*...and more!

Additional benefits:
*Bonus craft ideas and links.
*More enjoyable time together as a family.
*Confidence in the decisions you make about your child's education.
*A community of like-minded moms to help support you on your journey!

This is a program that will continue to grow.  Some of it will be available on the website and the rest will be on the Facebook group page.  It will be a growing community for support and homeschool information.  

I'd love to hear about your homeschool journey.  What areas to you have down and where do you still need some help?  It's something that changes from year to year and child to child.  I'd love to help you any way I can!  

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What Homeschooling Has Taught Me

This is our sixth year with homeschool. My kids were in grades 7, 5, and 2 when we started. Over the years there are several things I have learned from homeschooling. It certainly isn’t always easy; it takes time, effort and planning, but it can also be incredibly rewarding.

It’s safe to say that my kids haven’t always been thrilled with the idea of homeschool. And, even 6 years later it depends on the moment and which kid you ask. One thing is for sure, they have enjoyed having a bit more freedom with schedules and being able to help others out when the opportunity arises (even if it happens to be during the typical school hours).

Here are a few things I have learned along the way:

Math

First and foremost is how differently each one of my kids learns. When it comes to math, they are all completely different in styles and the way they process the information. It took a couple of years of trial and error to find the right fit for them all. I don’t know if it’s an age thing or the fact that they get to use the computer (I’m more of a book person), but thankfully last year, Khan Academy worked well for 2 of them. We had tried it in the past and only 1 of them liked it. It has really simplified things to have them doing all of their math online and in one place.  There's still one who it isn't the right fit for just yet.  For him we usually browse options at Mardel and see what meets his needs best.


Science

I have also learned that adding Bible into the basic subjects is totally doable. We started out with Apologia Science. All three of my kids have been able to use it, which helps a lot when it comes time to recycle the books for the next kid! It is written in an easy to understand way, yet packed full of information. They offer a lot of experiments, study guides, quizes/tests, making it easy to have everything in one place.  Not to mention that adding Bible to Science brings the learning up to a whole new level. 


History

These days it’s pretty much unheard of to find God within the school system. I have learned that not only can you put God back into learning, but it is also such a fundamental part of who we are, why we are here, and where our country started. This is why I love Notgrass History. It covers three subjects in one. It’s pretty intense, but I guarantee you my kids are learning something from it. I can’t tell you the number of times we have a casual conversation and they pipe in with something they learned about the subject through Notgrass.

Be warned, there is a ton of reading. Honestly, we don’t do all of the suggested literature books. We choose what fits our purpose best. Notgrass not only covers History, it also covers English and either Bible or Geography, depending on the book. When it comes to high school credits, I love having a 3-in-1 option.


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*This post was originally posted October 2019 on my Lavender and Coffee Blog.  I have revised it a little with updated information.
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A Day In The Life Of A Homeschool Mom

A Day In The Life Of A Homeschool Mom
Homeschool is certainly on the rise right now, though not all by choice.  It can be a hard adjustment, especially if you have been thrown into it.  This is my 5th year of homeschooling and I'm still making adjustments.  It's certainly not a one size fits all type of thing.  Every family has the challenge of figuring out what works best for them.  This becomes even more challenging when one of both parents are working from home.  How do you fit it all in without going absolutely crazy??


Here's a look at our daily routine.  It does change from time to time (one of the benefits of homeschool!) and, yes, we still get dressed and brush our teeth *wink*.
Get up
Get dressed
Eat breakfast
Do chores (feed pets, unload/load dishwasher, etc)
Start school by 9
Done by 11:30 (sometimes earlier)
Have lunch
Quiet time : everyone in their own places for reading (usually school work), crafts, and play time (use that imagination!)
Shows on tv with a snack
Free time
Electronics (usually playing with a friend or cousin online)
Supper
Clean-up
Get ready for bed (showers, pet chores, etc)


While the kids do their school work, I take care of things around the house (unless they need help).  During quiet time I get caught up on "adulting" like paying bills, doing some business work, or anything that my brain needs quiet to function.  I know this isn't a "one size fits all" kind of schedule, but it works well for my family.  I know of many homeschool families who don't really keep to a schedule and it works for them. However, my family tends to be very schedule oriented...even if we don't all admit it.  We function so much better when we know what's expected and when it's expected to be done.  


So, if you find yourself suddenly having to homeschool and feel as if you are floundering...give yourself some grace!  Make the adjustments that suit your family.  Have a 10 min break as needed (I do this daily for my 6th grader.  Sometimes he'll work for 30 min, then take a break to have some quiet fun.  When his break is up, he's able to re-focus and get more work done).  Also, check out my guide for less stress!

Here are some of my favorite homeschool curriculum sites.

I'd love to hear any tips/tricks you have for homeschooling!

Happy Homeschooling!
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